So, high school’s cool right? *Laughs nervously*. One of the biggest issues with the notoriously awkward and forced transition of a boy or girl becoming a bigger boy or prettier girl by taking them out of a school where they’re around boys and girls like them and forcing them around boys and girl who are intimidatingly bigger and more developed than them, is the attitude one has going through this transition. With the age that we live in today, so much SEEMS to be expected of us socially and superficially, especially during this period in our lives, at least, that’s what you’ll think at this time in your life. When it comes to high school, it doesn’t seem like any of your peers tell you that you need not worry about social status, that’s because they haven’t lived through it and seen what you really need to worry about. Many adults look back and wish they could’ve done high school differently, or at least prioritized it differently. Want to reduce drama, eliminate significant future regrets (we all need regrets, but the right ones), and have the right perspective going in to high school? Here’s a list to your future self of things you wish you knew before that freshman year (in no particular order).
1. TAKE IT SERIOUS!!THESE GRADES MATTER! DON’T SLACK OFF!
Yea there’s the age old stigma with schooling in America, that you won’t really use any of it in real life, and you’re right, a lot of what you learn won’t be needed for working a low income job that you’ll hate working six days a week :). Plus, getting good grades and having high test scores make you feel so proud of yourself! Confidence is EXTREMELY important in high school and just in life guys.
2. ASK FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT!!
Guys, contrary to popular belief, and as lame as it sounds, high school is here for education, and that’s what should be prioritized. It’ll keep you off of the drama and help you build a better future and all that cheesy stuff. Don’t be scared to raise your hand and ask questions because if you don’t understand and you stay quiet you will stay confused and it’ll only get worse!
3. DO YOUR WORK & PAY ATTENTION!
Save the daydreaming for another time! Going out with your friends isn’t worth failing that test! Also, ALWAYS do the extra credit! It will help you!
Yet another “lame” tip, but TRUST ME when you take time to go over what you learned, the next day will go so much smoother! Remember, now is the time to start seeing things and taking them for what they are. Adult life is about seeing the purpose in something and squeezing the practicality out of it. High school is for learning, so use it for its purpose, all up hill from there guys.
5. GET INVOLVED!!
Join a club! Join a sport! Go to the sporting events! You’ll always have good memories sitting on the bleachers eating nachos. Keeps you out of trouble, let’s you put something on your résumé, really enhances the whole high school experience, to be able to look back 10 years later and be happy that you were a part of something.
6. PEOPLE CHANGE!!
Now to more of the social stuff we get caught up in. Let’s start with friendships. Gonna try to save you some emotional stress. Most of the time you’re not going to remain friends with the people you went into high school with. That’s why statistics show that the early twenties (after high school and college) can be the loneliest and most depressing period in a young adult’s life. So branch out, meet new people you can vibe with! Don’t get so caught up in social status and emotional attachments. I mean, don’t be a loner, but don’t stress yourself either.
7. DON’T WORRY ABOUT FITTING IN!!
OK! So this seems very cliché. But don’t be someone you’re not to conform to others. That will be easier said than done, unfortunately, but remember this: You and everyone in that school with you are all figuring themselves out. None of your personalities are developed, you’re all still finding your identities, and what will be popularly accepted will change as fast as your contemporaries do. After 4 years, it isn’t going to matter what any of those people think.
8. RELATIONSHIPS ARE A NO NO!!
Studies show that what a person looks for in a mate changes DRASTICALLY from ages 18-25, and even more so before then. Avoid the heartbreak, and drama. There are people in their 30s who don’t know what they want, it’s a wonder why teenagers think they do. Relationships can be beautiful, and in your adult life it’s a great way to learn about yourself. But in high school, it’s usually not worth the distraction or risk. No matter how much you think it won’t be one. IT WILL..
9. BEING POPULAR DOES NOT MATTER!!
Doesn’t matter how many friends you have! QUALITY IS BETTER THAN QUANTITY. This is another one where you think you’ve heard it a million times, but no matter how much it’s said, a common misconception of new high schoolers is that high school is a popularity contest. That perception will only lead to depression and anxiety. See tips 1-3.
10. BE YOURSELF!
Can’t say this enough guys. Just let your light shine and someone will see that glow! Listen to music, talk about movies, own your weird talent, vibe with others that share the same passions & hobbies! You’re going to inevitably change here and there, but owning yourself is the first step to making sure whatever change occurs will be a progressive one.
What’re your thoughts? How did you like high school? What advice would you have given to yourself? If you’re in high school, how do you cope with all the stress and pressures? If you’re about to be a freshman, what are your fears? Share your thoughts!